The “Holidays”: Time to be happy and merry. For many people, this time of the year may feel stressful and overwhelming. Holidays can bring up and magnify unwanted memories and emotions. You want to make THIS holiday season great though – great for your kids, great for your family, better for yourself. Below are two coping tips that may help you or someone you know enjoy the holidays a bit more this year.
- Let go of expectations: Nothing will be perfect, and nothing will work out just the way you want it to. You can’t change or control anyone or anything but YOU. If you set your expectations too high, there’s a good chance you’ll feel guilty and/or frustrated when things go differently. Give yourself a break. Take things one step at a time and one moment at a time (this can be minute by minute, or day by day – whatever works best for you).
- Live in the moment: Practice mindfulness. When you start to feel all that stuff you don’t want to feel or worry about all those things you don't want to think about, try to focus your awareness on what is happening in the current moment (take a deep breath, close your eyes). Accept the moment for what it is (find a way to ground yourself in the moment and acknowledge that moment). Stop missing out on potential enjoyable activities by getting distracted by your thoughts.
And on that note… I wish you all happy holidays! :)